Finding purpose in your 20s

Who else is 23,24,25 years old still trying to figure out their purpose in life? Or undecided on the career path to go down? It seems like in today’s day and age being 20 something and traveling, going to college and just living it how you want to is normal and accepted. Remember as kids how we thought being 20 something was old and ancient and now that we’re in our 20s, we’re wondering where time went. Wondering what happens now and how to get to where we want to go.

It seems like it’s expected by the time you’re in your 20s your supposed have it all together, graduated from college, get a job and settle down. But, that’s not the case will of us some are married and have kids and others are out until the sun comes up partying and spending time exploring the world. 50 + years ago, our grandparents were our age and younger getting out of high school and getting married, having kids and working. My grandparents were 18 and 21 when they got married and settled down, but it was common back then for that to happen. After high school life happens, by that I mean you become more independent and you start adulting- paying your own bills, keeping up with your car and investing more time into your health and well being.

Ive realized that you can’t please everyone, with the jobs I’ve had I’d try my best with the work and show the managers how well my work ethic is but sometimes they wouldn’t like me or just not care about me doing my job. People will always have different views and opinions on everything so you can’t help who you can’t please. There will be people who will rain on your parade and just flat out hate you why? Because haters have nothing else better to do but watch your every move and hope that you fall. The best way to combat haters is by showing them your happiness and they can’t affect you.

Compared to when I was 16/17 to now at 24 my days can be hectic sometimes, before I was pregnant I’d get up go to work then dance and home. Now, my days revolve around my daughter and even with going out for a few hours I’m drained by the time I’m back home. Establishing a day/night routine will help you unwind and schedule your time better. Setting goals for yourself whether it’s short term or long term help put things into perspective. You’ll have something to always look forward to.

It’s important to remember that you won’t have life figured out at 20 or 28 years old. I think that’s the beauty of life itself is finding your purpose at any age. It’s ok if you still live at home ( I do and it’s not a problem ) being that you’d need a high paying job to afford rent here, living at home longer does have benefits. It’s ok do things backwards,earlier and later there isn’t a set time to experience life. You live in the now so being 20 something is about finding yourself, love, friends, traveling the world and figuring out what you want in life. Do you want to today because you don’t know if you’ll get that chance again.