Finding purpose in your 20s

Who else is 23,24,25 years old still trying to figure out their purpose in life? Or undecided on the career path to go down? It seems like in today’s day and age being 20 something and traveling, going to college and just living it how you want to is normal and accepted. Remember as kids how we thought being 20 something was old and ancient and now that we’re in our 20s, we’re wondering where time went. Wondering what happens now and how to get to where we want to go.

It seems like it’s expected by the time you’re in your 20s your supposed have it all together, graduated from college, get a job and settle down. But, that’s not the case will of us some are married and have kids and others are out until the sun comes up partying and spending time exploring the world. 50 + years ago, our grandparents were our age and younger getting out of high school and getting married, having kids and working. My grandparents were 18 and 21 when they got married and settled down, but it was common back then for that to happen. After high school life happens, by that I mean you become more independent and you start adulting- paying your own bills, keeping up with your car and investing more time into your health and well being.

Ive realized that you can’t please everyone, with the jobs I’ve had I’d try my best with the work and show the managers how well my work ethic is but sometimes they wouldn’t like me or just not care about me doing my job. People will always have different views and opinions on everything so you can’t help who you can’t please. There will be people who will rain on your parade and just flat out hate you why? Because haters have nothing else better to do but watch your every move and hope that you fall. The best way to combat haters is by showing them your happiness and they can’t affect you.

Compared to when I was 16/17 to now at 24 my days can be hectic sometimes, before I was pregnant I’d get up go to work then dance and home. Now, my days revolve around my daughter and even with going out for a few hours I’m drained by the time I’m back home. Establishing a day/night routine will help you unwind and schedule your time better. Setting goals for yourself whether it’s short term or long term help put things into perspective. You’ll have something to always look forward to.

It’s important to remember that you won’t have life figured out at 20 or 28 years old. I think that’s the beauty of life itself is finding your purpose at any age. It’s ok if you still live at home ( I do and it’s not a problem ) being that you’d need a high paying job to afford rent here, living at home longer does have benefits. It’s ok do things backwards,earlier and later there isn’t a set time to experience life. You live in the now so being 20 something is about finding yourself, love, friends, traveling the world and figuring out what you want in life. Do you want to today because you don’t know if you’ll get that chance again.

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68 thoughts on “Finding purpose in your 20s

  1. I’m almost 19 years old and my mum already expects me to have my life together and everything figured out. Thankfuly, back to the time when I went to therapy, I got told by my therapist that it’s okay to not have everything figured out and it’s okay to make huge life changes even after 30. πŸ™‚

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    1. That’s true, you don’t need to have everything figured out at 18, I’m 24 and don’t know what I’ll be doing in a year from now . I hope to be a more successful blogger that’s what I’m working towards . You can make big life decisions at any age it doesn’t have to be now, you’re young , you need to enjoy life

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  2. Being in my 20s has been a challenge! I’m in college and everyone keeps asking, “when are you graduating?” and most of the times, I just respond with, “I’m sure you’ll find out someday”. It’s frustrating being asked that all the time, everyone (including people you’re not close to) seems to have this untold expectation of you and I’ve come to realize that at the end of the day, you’re the only person who can disappoint you more than anyone and you’re the only person who will celebrate your achievements more than anyone. Great post. Loved this.

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    1. Thank you ! I agree it’s a challenge . I’ve been asked when am I going to get a full time job, have another kid I mean I don’t know . It’s expected that I’m settled and sufficient but it’s not the case right how.

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      1. It gets discouraging when that happens. You just need to remind yourself that you’re in a different path than others and you’re doing what’s best for you and your kid!

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      2. Thank you ! I’ll kind that mind πŸ’›

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  3. WithTheHuddlestons September 2, 2017 — 2:08 pm

    Good post, and thanks for the memories! lol! Now that I’m in my 30s, I realize the expectations placed on us in our 20s are extremely high. Spend 20s figuring out life, living and learning. Don’t rush into anything and take advantage of everything! Trust me, it’ll be worth it! πŸ™‚

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    1. I feel like there’s so many expectations that at 24 I haven’t experienced yet or will. Having to get a full time job and get insurance it’s a lot. I’m taking my time with it for sure I don’t want rush and regret anything

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  4. I’m 25 and although I have ticked a lot of boxes, it still feels as though I’m spinning around trying to figure out what to do next.

    Thanks for the post ❀

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    1. I feel the same way ! Thank you 😊 and your very welxome

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  5. I am completely with you on this! Sometimes I have to remind myself that my life is still coming together at 24 years old. In some ways, I feel like I should have already “made it” with a well-paying job–the fact is that struggling is uncomfortable, but natural. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts, you’re definitely not alone!

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    1. Thank you ! Yes life is still happening at our age and there’s so much we haven’t done yet . Some people I know are established some what but are struggling to live on their own.

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  6. Very true! I’m 29 still working on figuring out my life πŸ˜€ I have much clearer idea now compared to when I was 20 but something’s telling this process is never ending… at least for me πŸ˜‰

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    1. I agree on that! Process is never ending

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      1. Exactly! Hey – I’d like to nominate you for the Mystery Blogger Award! I love your blogs πŸ™‚ See more details here: https://themomotalk.com/2017/09/19/the-award-season/

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      2. Ah thank you !! I will check it out

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  7. Great post! I got married and had all 3 kids by 24 but now I’m 28 and they are all starting school and I’m left thinking “what’s my purpose now”

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    1. Thank you ! There’s plenty for you to do, you’ll find your purpose .

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  8. I am 19 and i think I’ve found my purpose but its so hard to decide if thats exactly what I want. But you’ll find your purpose I’m sure πŸ™‚

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    1. I hope so!! That’s good you have 😊

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  9. I agree! I am 28 and each day I learn new things about myself. I think it helps to embrace each stage in life!

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  10. I’m 31 and still figuring it out.

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    1. I feel like it’s a never ending process !

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  11. I am in my 30’s and I am so glad you shared such a beautiful post. When I was in my 20’s life was different but I have no regrets. However, If I would have sorted various things, my present life would have been little sorted!! Ha ha!!

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    1. Thank you ! I’m glad you liked it . I agree like when I was a teenager was different compared to now . If i would have done things differently my life would be completely different

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  12. Agree with all of this. I think a big part of me holding myself back is that I keep falling into the “should” trap instead of looking at where I am now, and working toward bettering that. Opportunities will present themselves as long as you remain intentional in the work you are doing as well. I don’t mean this to say that we should passively just wait for things to fall into our laps, because life doesn’t work that way. I do think that, again, if you are doing your thing, and really just trying out new things and putting your best effort into it, you will align with opportunities that fit your desires. Great post πŸ™‚

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    1. I completely agree with you , putting effort and trying new things will get you to where you want to go.

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  13. Oh man…I’m 36 and just starting to figure it all out lol! I’ve tried everything from the military to graphic design and lived all over the county. It’s okay to take the time, you really get to know yourself and enjoy life more πŸ™‚

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    1. I completely agree with you on that . There’s no rush or set time limit on figuring life out

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  14. As someone who just turned 30 in June I can honestly say I struggled hard with not finding my purpose in my 20s. I dropped out of college, left what I thought was going to be my career and lived in a 1 bedroom apartment. I am still struggling, but I am in a better place now than I was even 6 months ago. I may not have found my purpose in life yet, but I am getting there!

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    1. You’ll keep doing better ! Thank you for sharing 😊😊

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  15. It’s hard, I’m 21 and feel so much pressure to just sort my whole life out but honestly, I have NO IDEA what I want to do! The plan is to just take each day at a time and hopefully find something meaningful to do with my time!

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    1. That’s how I take it also! One day at a time. We don’t need have everything figured out now, we have time and there’s so much to do and enjoy

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  16. Such an uplifting post – it’s nice to get some reassurance that’s it’s okay not to have it all figured out by now. I’m in my mid-twenties now and it feels like the first half went by in the blink of an eye! Rx

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    1. Thank you ! I feel the same that the first half of my life flew by , I felt in high school was a stand still but now I’m 24 and still not sure of what I want in life but it’s ok.

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  17. This is so true. I’m 27 and married with a baby, but a lot of my friends of the same age are living with friends, out partying, travelling and building a career. I think the important thing is to do whatever makes you happy.

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    1. Completely agree . I have a baby too and my non mom friends do the same and everyone has things they want to do. It really is about what makes you happy

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  18. Such a great perspective! 😊

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  19. My young age life is very different like the woman at this time when they really spend more their happy time on 20s, i finished my school at 17/18 and at the same age i had my 1st job while i’m finish my study in univ, not many thing i could have during those time while my other friend focus just only in their univ life and me need to focus with other else, and i could say i finish my 20s life when i’m 23 or in precisely when i got married and have a baby so my 20s seems finish. But i never regret those time as with that i found my purpose life very soon πŸ˜€

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    1. You should never regret any thing you’ve done In life . Thank you for sharing !

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  20. When I was in my twenties, I was travelling and is going with the flow of my time.. don’t be hard on yourself, cheer up:)

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    1. I’ll keep that in mind, thank you 😊

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  21. Great writing. I think I didn’t really have things worked out until I turned 30. There are things I wish I had done differently, but I think that’s how most would feel.

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    1. Thank you 😊 there’s thing I wish I’ve done but I don’t regret anything

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  22. My 20s are almost over and I have to say that I’ve learned that life is whatever I make it to be. I don’t need a grand, everlasting purpose – it can grow and change with me. You are so right to say that we should embrace the day. It’s all we truly have.

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    1. Completely agree! Life is what you make it , always seize the day and do what you love

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  23. I love this post. I believe that one must find his/her purpose in their twenties. I have learnt from this. Thank you for sharing.

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  24. I’m 23, and I feel like I’ve been doing life wrong because I’m not getting engaged (don’t even have a boyfriend) and I haven’t moved out yet. I’m also not traveling the world. I definitely don’t have it all together by the standards of most people I see on my social media, but I do know that I’m still on a path to success! Thanks for your inspiring post

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    1. I’m in the same boat girl, I’m not in a relationship or engaged either , still live at home too but it’s ok that’ll happen when it happens ! And we’re going to be successful no doubt

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  25. Man, I’m in my 30’s and I still don’t have it all figured out! I think that we’re all just pretending. I can’t see how some people can have a super clear direction for their lives that never changes; life is too unpredictable!

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    1. So true ! Life is unpredictable and you won’t know what’ll happen

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  26. I am 26 years old. I am a mother of three and that is my life purpose currently. But I agree with you I think you can find your purpose at any she and I think you can change your purpose at any time as well. Very uplifting post!

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    1. Thank you ! Mine right now as being a mom too. You can find it at any age because life changes so does what ever decisions you make

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  27. I’m 23…..but still confused about how I want to live my life… Hope I’m not the only one…

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    1. You aren’t ! I am not sure about what I want too

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  28. At 27 I still don’t have it all figured out. I wish I knew at 20 that it was ok to take your time. I may have planned things out a little better lol. Either way it’s totally ok to take your time and just enjoy being you even if you’re still trying to figure it out. There’s no manual for this life because it’s yours. My path is totally different from yours and that’s ok! Walk your walk at your pace. Great read!

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    1. Thank you ! I completely agree . It’s fine to take your time and figure things out

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  29. I’m 37 and I still don’t know what the heck I want to be when I grow up!! Love this message, I’m working on living more in the moment!

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    1. That’s the best thing to do! Live in the now

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  30. Unfortunately there is so much pressure on having your sh*t together all the time. I think Social Media also does not help- even IG is only ever showing ‘perfect’. We’ve come to compare ourselves all the time which puts a lot of pressure on ppl, young or already in their 30’s. I think a product of this is increasing Mental health awareness.

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    1. I agree , social media always displays perfect and no one is . That’s the thing with it , it makes people want to change who they are .

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  31. Dyana @adebtfreejourney September 6, 2017 — 3:10 am

    I love this! I still wake up some days and not know what my next step is. I wish I wasn’t in such a hurry to grow up because it’s honestly a trial-and-error process. When I start to feel down I look at my kids and realize I’ve managed to keep them alive so I’m not doing too bad at life.

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    1. Thank you ! I have those days too.

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  32. Great read. Nearing my 30s and still discovering my purpose. I just started writing , hope you can find time to check it out. God bless you

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    1. Yes for sure I’ll check it out . Thank you

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